12 years ago today, the greatest influence in my life went home to be with the Lord…my Mammaw, Bessie G. Ferguson. I miss her every day and yet her life is woven into the tapestry of my life in a profound way. Many of you reading this know, that I suffocated to death as a child and was pronounced dead. My Mammaw literally prayed me back to life. This miracle was recorded on the front page of the Dallas Morning News.

Today I honor her memory by sharing with you some of the “Tenets for Life” that she taught me. She did not call them “Tenets.” Tenets are opinions, principles, dogma or doctrines a person believes or maintains as true. She did not force feed these things to me, in fact, they were more caught than taught. The following are a few:

1. You cannot dictate everything that happens to you, but you can dictate what happens in you.

Mammaw taught me that we don’t have to own everything that happens to us, but we do own what happens in us. Cancer does not fight fair! Mammaw got breast cancer when breast cancer was a death sentence. Cancer happened to her, but she never became “cancerous” as a person.

2. Because you can dictate what happens in you, you can determine your outward response.

Divorce happened to her, but did not happen in her. She was hurt inside, but never became bitter on the outside. She taught me that things can hurt us on the inside but we have the power through Christ to be strengthened by what should crush us. What should crush us, has the power to push us towards God.

3. You cannot control what other people do to you, but you can control what you do to other people.

Mammaw taught me that “Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.” But not just mercy, but FAVOR with both God and man. We don’t give honor because people are honorable, but because we are honorable. She was the most honoring person I have ever met and for real…never said a negative word about anybody!!!

4. Never speak a negative word about anybody.

I am still working on this!!! Everyone is God’s son or daughter…mercy Lord…mercy!!!

5. You are not responsible for others actions, but you are responsible for your actions.

6. When you choose to Be the Best you can Be, you will gain the power to See the Best in others.

Mammaw taught me that it is God’s desire that we see people the way God sees them, but we can only do that if we choose to Be the Best we can be. If I am not striving to Be my Best for God, I will never be able to recognize the Best in others. Why do I need to See the Best in others? Because I can only be the beneficiary of the greatness of God that is in others if I can recognize the greatness.

As a footnote, I received a call from a precious woman of God today who is 90 years old, who has made me a grandson of choice and she wanted to tell me that God wanted me to know my Mammaw is having a great time in heaven and is very proud of me!!! Wow! Thank You God for your love for me. For the way You loved me through my Mammaw. Thank You for her life that I am who I am because of who You made her to be.

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Finally, Mammaw…I love you! I will never forget you! I am sharing your story around the world.

Love,
Keith