What is the one thing that makes everything better?

Intimacy.

Intimacy…this subject makes people uncomfortable…they have a difficult time discussing it. Intimacy is the most misunderstood subject.

Most people do not know they have an intimacy issue, but we all have some type of intimacy issue. Intimacy is the ONE THING that makes the happiness thing work. Our desire for happiness is really a desire for IN-TO-ME-SEE.

We all started out with needs that we didn’t even know we had. One of our greatest needs is to be cared for. We want people to care about us.

I have the fondest memories of the days that my dad would drive me to school in his patrol car. My dad was not a man of many words, even though I talked the whole way, he never said a word and always looked straight ahead. Every time I did the same thing, I would jump in the car, scoot close to him and talk the entire ride to school. When it was time to get out of the car, I would look directly into my dad’s ear and I would say, “I love you.” There was no response. Then, I would ask him to repeat after me, “I love you.” He would repeat my exact words. Lastly, I would turn his head so that we were facing each other and I would say again, “I love you, dad”, and then give him a kiss on the lips. My dad’s response was an uncomfortable, “Ok, Ok, Have a good day.” My dad grew up without a dad. It wasn’t until I was 12 years old that during a discussion with my mom and her explaining the many reasons why with my dad being a public servant that my affection was not something that I should be doing in public. I shared with her that God spoke to me saying, that I needed to love dad in a way that his dad never loved him. See, my dad grew up without a dad. I said to my mom, I want your permission to hug him, to hold his hand, to kiss him and to love him like his dad never did. My mom replied, Yes, that is exactly what he needs!

After a heart attack at the age of 67, my father came to know Christ. When the revelation of Christ came to my dad, he started to understand a little more about intimacy, he started to understand me better. After his revelation, my dad would walk into the room with his head down, hands behind his back walk straight towards me and lift his head up with his lips puckered because he knew it was coming. His shift occurred, because of the revelation of who Jesus is.

Intimacy makes everything better!

Tomorrow, I will continue to talk about intimacy. Specifically, on How to Make EVERYTHING Better.


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